Knowledge Base
Clear, practical guides to choosing, using and caring for sex toys, lubricants and accessories. Every guide is written to answer the questions shoppers actually ask, with no jargon and no judgement.
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Traveling With Sex Toys: Airport Security & Packing Tips
Traveling with sex toys? Learn TSA rules, carry-on vs checked bags, lithium battery and lube limits, travel locks, customs laws and discreet packing.
How to Store, Charge and Look After Your Sex Toys
Learn how to store and charge sex toys so they last: material-safe storage, battery care, charging fixes, travel tips and when it's time to replace a toy.
Lingerie Size Guide: How to Measure and Find Your Fit
Our lingerie size guide shows you how to measure hips, waist and thighs, decode O/S and queen sizing, and choose thongs, slips and stockings that fit.
App-Controlled & Long-Distance Sex Toys: How They Work
App-controlled and long-distance sex toys explained: how they connect, remote vs app vs Wi-Fi, privacy tips, and how to use one with a partner.
Couples Vibrators: How to Choose One You Will Both Love
Couples vibrators explained: wearable, ring, wand and remote styles, plus how to pick one you'll both love, what to ask each other, and how to start.
Penis Pumps: How They Work and How to Use Them Safely
How do penis pumps work, and how do you use one safely? Learn the types, a step-by-step routine, time limits, warning signs and cleaning tips.
Strokers and Sleeves: How to Choose, Use and Care for Them
Strokers and sleeves explained: how to pick the right material, texture and tightness, use one comfortably, and clean, dry and store it so it lasts.
How to Use a Cock Ring Safely: Fit, Timing & Beginner Tips
Learn how to use a cock ring safely: how to pick the right size and material, put it on, how long to wear it, warning signs, and the best beginner rings.
Prostate Massage: A Beginner's Guide to the P-Spot
New to prostate massage? Learn where the P-spot is, how to prepare, which beginner toys to try, and how to stay safe and comfortable from the first try.
Butt Plug Size Guide: How to Pick and Size Up Safely
Butt plug size guide: how to read diameter and length, what size to start with, and how to size up safely and comfortably, one step at a time.
Anal Play for Beginners: Comfort, Safety and First Toys
Anal play for beginners, made simple: how to prepare, why lube and flared bases matter, what to expect the first time, and the best first toys to try.
How to Choose a Dildo: Size, Shape and Material Guide
Learn how to choose a dildo that suits your body: realistic sizing tips, curved vs straight shapes, body-safe materials, suction cups and beginner picks.
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Questions these guides answer
Does anal play hurt the first time?
It shouldn't. Pressure, fullness and an unfamiliar sensation are common, but sharp or burning pain means you need more lube, more warm-up time or a smaller toy. Stop, breathe, and try again another day if needed. If pain continues even when you go slowly, check in with a clinician to rule out issues like fissures or hemorrhoids.
How long can you safely wear a butt plug?
Start with short sessions, around 10 to 20 minutes, and build up gradually as your body gets used to it. Smaller plugs with slim necks are best for longer wear. Remove the plug if you feel numbness, aching, or any sharp sensation, and give your body breaks between sessions. If you have ongoing discomfort or a medical condition affecting your bowel or anus, check with a clinician first.
Do I have to douche before anal play?
No, douching is optional. Most people find a bathroom trip and a shower are enough, since the rectum is usually empty. If douching helps you relax, use a small amount of lukewarm plain water, keep it gentle, and avoid doing it too often, because frequent douching can irritate the rectal lining.
Will sizing up permanently stretch me out?
The anal sphincters are muscles that naturally relax and contract, and gradual, gentle play with plenty of lube is generally considered low risk. Problems are more likely when people rush, force a size, or ignore pain. Sizing up slowly and taking breaks lets your body adjust comfortably. If you notice leakage, persistent pain, or changes in bowel control, talk to a clinician.
What size butt plug should a beginner get?
Smaller than you think. Look for the smallest size in a range, with a tapered tip, a narrow neck and a wide flared base. A graduated set lets you move up slowly over several sessions or weeks. If a finger feels comfortable, a plug of a similar width is a sensible place to start.
Should I use numbing lube for a bigger plug?
It's best not to. Numbing or desensitizing products dull the pain signals that tell you to slow down or stop, which makes it easier to cause small tears without realizing. A thicker water-based lube, a proper warm-up with a smaller toy, and slow breathing are much safer ways to make a larger size comfortable.