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No, douching is optional. Most people find a bathroom trip and a shower are enough, since the rectum is usually empty. If douching helps you relax, use a small amount of lukewarm plain water, keep it gentle, and avoid doing it too often, because frequent douching can irritate the rectal lining.
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