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A sense of fullness or stretch is normal. Sharp pain, burning or the feeling that you have to force it means the toy is too big for right now. Stop, add lube, or switch to something smaller. Comfort can grow gradually with relaxation and practice, so size up in small steps. If pain continues even with small toys, talk to a clinician.
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