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A remote toy comes with a small handheld remote that talks directly to the toy, with no phone or account needed, and works over a short range. An app toy is controlled through a smartphone app, often with more patterns and customisation, and some app toys support long-distance play over the internet. If you live together and want simplicity, a remote is often enough.
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