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They might worry about that at first, which is why framing matters. Present the toy as an addition to the sex you already enjoy, name specific things you love about your partner, and choose a toy that involves both of you, like a vibrating ring or a game. Letting them control the toy helps it feel shared rather than like a replacement.
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