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A vibrating ring or a simple wand is usually easiest. Rings are affordable, hands-free and slot straight into penetrative sex, while wands work externally on any body and give you precise control. Both have a low learning curve, so you can focus on each other instead of figuring out the toy. Once you know what you like, upgrading to remote or strap-on styles feels much less daunting.
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