Short answer
A thick water-based lube is the safest all-round choice because it works with every toy material, including silicone. Silicone lube lasts longer and suits glass, steel and hard plastic toys, but it can degrade some silicone toys. Avoid numbing lubes, since pain is an important signal to slow down or stop.
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