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Yes. Losing some or all firmness during sex is very common, especially when you're tired, stressed, distracted, have been drinking, or are changing positions or putting on a condom. It doesn't automatically mean anything is wrong. If it happens most of the time for several weeks, or it's causing you distress, it's worth checking in with a clinician.
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