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For a first scene, keep it short, just long enough to enjoy the feeling. Change positions often, especially if arms are overhead, and check in regularly. Release right away if your partner reports numbness, tingling, coldness or pins and needles, or if their skin changes color. As you get comfortable you can extend scenes, but comfort and circulation always come first.
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