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Pick something you'd never say by accident during sex. Many people use the traffic-light system: green means keep going, yellow means slow down or check in, and red means stop completely and remove restraints. Pair it with a nonverbal signal, like dropping keys held in one hand, in case words become hard to find in the moment.
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