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As long as everyone needs. For some people, ten minutes of cuddling and a glass of water is plenty. Others want a full evening of quiet closeness, plus a check-in the next day. Agree on a rough plan before you play, but stay flexible. Needs can change depending on how intense the experience was, how tired you are, and what else is going on in your life.
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