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You can, as long as you both feel comfortable with it. Make sure it's made from a nonporous, body-safe material like silicone, clean it thoroughly according to the instructions, and use a condom over it if you'll be sharing it between bodies. Some partners prefer a brand-new toy you choose together, so ask how they feel.
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