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It depends on the relationship and the rules they work under. A partner can help however you both agree. Paid caregivers often have workplace boundaries around intimate support, so ask what's permitted. A common middle ground is asking them to place your toy, lube and towel within reach and then give you privacy. Consent and comfort matter for everyone involved.
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