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App-controlled vibrators can be, because some let a partner adjust settings from far away over the internet. Standard handheld remotes only work within a short range, so check the product details before buying for distance play. Whichever you choose, agree on boundaries in advance, such as when it is okay to surprise each other, and keep play private and consensual.
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