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A lubricant is used right before and during sexual activity to reduce friction, and its effect is short-lived. A vaginal moisturizer is used regularly, on a routine, to help tissue hold moisture day to day, whether or not you're having sex. Many people with menopausal dryness use both. Look for gentle, fragrance-free formulas, and stop using anything that stings.
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