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It's common, but it isn't universal. Hormonal shifts, poor sleep, night sweats, stress and mood changes can all lower desire. Many people find their desire becomes more responsive, meaning it builds after touch begins rather than appearing out of nowhere. If low libido is causing you distress, talk to a clinician, who can review possible contributors such as medications or mood.
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