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The simplest route is to ask; it's thoughtful, not a spoiler. Otherwise, check labels on underwear they already love, remembering sizes vary between brands. When in doubt, pick forgiving pieces like stretchy one-size stockings or a brief in their usual clothing size, and avoid structured items that need precise measurements. Shopping together can turn sizing into part of the fun.
Read the full guideLingerie Size Guide: How to Measure and Find Your FitOur lingerie size guide shows you how to measure hips, waist and thighs, decode O/S and queen sizing, and choose thongs, slips and stockings that fit. Updated November 9, 2026 · All questions